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What to Expect After Moving In Together Now That You’re Married

by victoriavadenking
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Moving in together after getting married is something normal, but it also has its fair share of challenges. The truth is that moving in together is always going to help the relationship move onward and it can bring in lots of happiness. However, if you listen to advise for married couples, this also has its fair share of challenges. Moving in together is definitely demanding, and you do need to reach a common ground when it comes to responsibilities, organizing your belongings, and so on.

Manage Your Finances As A Married Couple

When you move together, a very good idea is to start managing your finances together. It’s essential to pinpoint what expenses you have and also talk about mutual expenses if you can combine them (and in most cases, you can). I think it’s a good idea for both partners to be financially responsible. Talk with one another before any purchase and see what brings you the best possible results and experience. The number one miscommunication in marriages is regarding finances. Start off on the right foot to avoid several headaches and arguments by getting on the same page.

Share the Responsibilities

Upon moving to a new place, you do want to share your responsibilities. It’s not ok for one of you to do everything, from laundry to cleaning the home, while the other sits in front of a TV. Dividing responsibilities can help immensely and it can bring in front incredible results. It also removes any resentment, and it allows you to appreciate your loved one’s work a whole lot more. To be honest, it may not be evenly split 50/50, but as long as it’s a realistic agreement that both of you feel comfortable about, hats off to you!

You should agree on how to decorate your home

The best piece of marriage advice I received is to try and find a common ground when it comes to decorating the home as well. It’s not ok for one of you to have the ultimate say. After all, you are both living under the same roof. So I think it’s important for both parts of the couple to have the same strength in regards to how their home is decorated.

Give Yourselves Time to Adjust to Married Life

Yes, moving in together is fun, but it does take some getting used to. You’re sharing the resources and every room with someone else. That means you need to schedule things and ensure both of you have a great time and don’t step onto each other’s toes. As always, and just like every piece of advice for married couples states, communication is key. Talk with one another, and you will have no problem finding the right way to deal with any situation. If you just keep it for yourself and you’re staying angry, that becomes an issue.

I think it’s important to have the right mindset when you’re moving with your partner. Staying communicative, avoiding any rush, and making sure you talk with him/her openly is very important. Yes, some things will take getting used to, like scheduling bathroom time in the morning when you both get to work. But these are things that will become natural after a while.

So, even if there’s a bit of pressure and challenges at first, all of them will be ironed out with proper communication. Make your marriage fun, exciting and listen to each other’s ideas, then it will all be amazing! If you enjoyed this post, click here to read more, and make sure to follow us on Instagram to see our behind-the-scenes life as a family of seven!

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Stephanie January 9, 2022 - 6:18 am

I feel that 2 people who love each other should move in before getting married. This way you both can truly see what the other person is all about, the good, the bad and the ugly. Maybe more marriages would survive more (and some wouldn’t even happen) if people would move in together and really get to know each other before actually signing the papers. That’s what me and my husband did and it was great for us. Some people might feel in love with each other but once they move in for a few weeks things will look very different. Just my 2 cents.

victoriavadenking April 11, 2022 - 12:30 am

I have to politely disagree, but I completely understand where you’re coming from. My cousin (who I call my little brother) did the same thing as a test before they married. It was temporary, and I understand why. But, usually, at least in my experience, if you live together before marriage, it causes strife in the relationship, because the guy already has the benefits of a “wife” without the ring.

Jasmine Hewitt March 17, 2022 - 10:41 am

agree to finding a common ground when it comes to decor! I really dislike the one-sidedness that can develop when one person isn’t able to incorporate their ideas

victoriavadenking April 11, 2022 - 12:21 am

I 100% agree, it makes things that much harder and puts unnecessary strain on your marriage/relationship when things are one-sided.


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