In a world where everyone’s hustling for careers, climbing the corporate ladder, and chasing success, I’ve seen enough of the craziness to know that the rat race isn’t for me.
Admittedly, as a type-A, stubborn, and sometimes abrasive woman, becoming a submissive wife was about as appealing as a root canal.
But after 10 years with my husband, I’ve come to realize that submitting to your husband is not about losing your independence or your identity.
It’s more like embracing a partnership where you both can find joy, laughter, and a few plot twists along the way.
This post is all about life as a submissive wife.
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Disclaimer: I said what I said.
Now, let me set the record straight.
This post is all about my personal experience and should not be perceived as me throwing shade at working moms or supermoms who handle it all.
You do you, ladies!
We’re all in this messy adventure called motherhood together, no matter which path we choose.
Having been a full-time YouTuber for the past several years, I didn’t fit in (as weird as that is to write).
I mean, have you seen some of the stuff that goes viral?
It’s like everyone wants a front-row seat to relationship drama or extravagant parties.
As a happily married black mom, I quickly realized I wasn’t fitting the mold of what social media seemed to celebrate.
No divorces or fancy single mom soirées over here.
Instead, I wanted to share my side of the story that often gets overlooked – the joy of being a wife and a mom, grateful to be out of the chaotic dating pool.
Trust me, it’s been a rollercoaster of laughs, love, and moments that questioned my sanity without the need for a “perfect” social media facade.
Going from Independent Wonder Woman to “Just A Housewife”
Now, let me paint the picture for you.
My dear husband and I didn’t meet until exactly a month after I graduated.
And I earned my college degree before he did.
I had my own fancy apartment with my very own wheels, and adopted my first dog the same weekend I moved in.
While my husband was still finishing up his bachelor’s degree and living with three roommates (and did I mention he’s older than me?), I was out there adulting.
In undergrad, I was juggling not one, not two, but three jobs every year in college.
And no, it wasn’t because I had to financially pay my way through.
Nope, I thrived on the chaos of being in two places at once, because who needs sleep when you can conquer the world, right?
So, you see, the journey to becoming a happily married, happily submissive wife wasn’t some predestined path for me.
What Does Submissive Wife Mean?
When independent ladies hear the words “submissive wife,” they might conjure up images of a wallflower who couldn’t speak her mind if her life depended on it.
But speaking as a proud submissive wife, that’s about as accurate as wearing stilettos to a marathon.
Being a submissive wife isn’t about being weak or powerless!
It’s about recognizing that there’s an art to knowing when to take the lead and when to let your partner shine.
Think of it as a hilarious dance routine where you and your husband effortlessly switch roles, keeping the harmony alive and the laughter flowing.
Why Being a Submissive Wife is Not for the Faint of Heart
As someone who likes to be in control, the idea of surrendering to my husband’s leadership was terrifying.
But as I learned to trust him and let him take charge, I realized that there’s a certain power in surrendering.
When you let go of the need to control everything, it creates space for something new to emerge.
And when you trust your husband’s leadership, it can lead to some pretty amazing things.
But, let’s get one thing straight – submission is not about being a doormat.
It’s about making a choice to follow your husband’s lead and trust that he has your best interests at heart.
By submitting, you’re taking control of the situation and showing your husband that you trust him enough to take charge.
And let’s be real, there’s something undeniably sexy about a man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to go after it.
I Left the Single Girl Era in College Where She Belonged
Being independent is overrated.
Why would I want to raise kids by myself when I can have my husband by my side, making me laugh and helping me when things get tough?
I don’t want my kids to grow up thinking that mommy and daddy are in separate corners of the ring.
I want them to see us together, happy, and working things out when we disagree.
Especially as a millennial woman, it’s taboo to admit that I don’t want to be independent (anymore).
But the truth is, I love being taken care of and spoiled by my husband (it’s his love language).
I mean, I worked 40 hours a week in three part-time jobs as a full-time college student…and it was fun while it lasted.
Having to worry about paying bills, fixing the car, mowing the lawn, pumping my own gas, and taking out the trash?
It’s not that I can’t do those things myself, but it’s nice to have someone else take the burden off my shoulders.
When I spent 10 years praying for my husband (before we met), taking care of his responsibilities and my own were not part of my wish list.
Submission Holds the Key to a Sizzling Sex Life
Okay, let’s talk about the elephant in the room.
Yes, being a submissive wife can lead to some pretty steamy bedroom activities.
But it’s not just about sex.
It’s about creating a partnership where both parties feel valued and respected.
And, men find it attractive because it shows that you’re confident in yourself and your relationship.
In a way, you’re basically saying, “I trust my man to take care of me, and I’m proud of it.”
When you trust your husband enough to let him take charge, it creates a level of intimacy that can’t be matched.
Plus, who doesn’t love a man who knows what he’s doing in the bedroom?
What is a Submissive Wife, Redefined for Today
In today’s crazy, modern world, being a submissive wife takes on a whole new meaning.
It’s like embracing a secret superpower that sets you apart from the masses.
While the world is busy chasing trends and scrambling for the spotlight, you’re confidently striding through life, secure in the knowledge that you’ve found your own unique path.
As a millennial submissive wife in America, you’re a trailblazer, flipping societal expectations on their head.
You’re not afraid to challenge the status quo and redefine what it means to be a strong, independent woman.
In this fast-paced, ever-changing world, being a submissive wife means finding balance, love, and a dash of humor amidst the chaos.
It’s about building a partnership where both you and your spouse thrive, supporting each other’s dreams, and laughing your way through the ups and downs.
So, boldly navigate this uncharted territory, embracing the unique journey of being a submissive wife in a world that’s anything but ordinary.
How to Become A Submissive Wife According to the Bible
Developing the characteristics of a submissive wife doesn’t just happen overnight.
Trust me, I speak from experience.
I’m still a work in progress, especially when it comes to relinquishing control of the wheel.
(I still sometimes help my husband drive from the passenger’s seat because we both know I’m the better driver even though I let him drive which tests my patience and sanity on a regular basis.)
But, according to the Bible, what does it mean to be submissive as a wife?
Being a submissive wife means embracing a partnership where the husband takes the lead and the wife respects and supports his role as the head of the household.
It’s about recognizing the biblical teachings on marriage and understanding the unique roles and responsibilities that each partner brings to the table.
Seek Wisdom from Scripture:
- Study biblical teachings on marriage, such as Ephesians 5:22-24, which encourages wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord.
- Understand the context and meaning behind these passages.
Follow Christ’s Example:
- Look to Jesus as the ultimate example of humility and servant leadership.
- Emulate His sacrificial love and strive to demonstrate it within your marriage.
Pray for Guidance:
- Seek guidance from God through prayer, asking for wisdom and understanding as you navigate your role as a submissive wife.
- Allow your faith to guide your actions and decisions.
Despite our occasional battle of wills, I’ve seen our marriage grow stronger than ever since I started intentionally making choices to let my husband lead.
Basically, how to be a submissive Christian wife is like unlocking a secret level of marital bliss.
Over the past four years, especially, our bond has flourished in ways I never could have imagined.
And this is coming from the woman who practically divorced her husband, even though he did nothing wrong (seriously, you can read it here).
It just goes to show that embracing this path of submission has truly transformed our marriage.
Real Men Rely on Charm, Not Harm
If you take anything from this post, I need to make this crystal clear:
Being a submissive wife does not mean putting up with aggression or disrespect from your husband.
Real men know how to lead with love and respect, and they don’t need to be aggressive or domineering to do it.
It’s about creating a partnership where both parties feel valued and respected, and where you can work together to create a life that you love.
Building a healthy and harmonious marriage requires mutual respect and a commitment to nurturing each other’s growth.
Remember, a strong and respectful partnership is the foundation for a fulfilling and enduring marriage.
This post was all about being a submissive wife.
Embrace the love, the laughter, and even the occasional chaos that comes with being a submissive wife.
Because when you’re willing to surrender some control and hop on this wild rollercoaster, you’ll discover a whole new level of joy and connection that’ll have you screaming with laughter and reaching for your husband’s hand.
If you enjoyed this post and want more insights into submission and maintaining a healthy marriage, check out my related posts: “Submission is Still Sexy” and “How to Submit to Your Husband As An Independent Woman.”
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